By Bayo Ogunmupe
Never underestimate the power of your thoughts. What you think you
become. Therefore, always hold the highest vision of yourself. What you
believe of yourself shapes your life, experience and your future. If you
think yourself unworthy and inferior, perhaps because of previous bad
experiences; your mind will look for circumstances to confirm that
belief. However, when you are full of confidence, knowing that you are
profoundly loved and worthy of being alive; that makes you much more
powerful. With such confidence, you will never be influenced by the
opinion of others. Which is why you will never get what you want, if you
don't ask for it.
The world is full of
advice regarding how to get the most out of life. Opinion is the
cheapest commodity in the universe, everybody has an opinion. All of
which is worthless if you don't treat your curiosity with responsibility
and give your intuition with the respect it deserves. People may laugh
at you but nine times out of ten it is your lack of courage to pursue
your dream that keeps you small; helping your advisers to feel big. The
moment you allow the opinion of others stop you from taking action on
your dreams; that's the you must kiss them goodbye. This fact of life is
my first law of success. Never rely on unsolicited advice, to do so is
to weaken your ingenuity.
Two, the fastest
way to improve your own life is by doing something to improve another
person's life. The best way to get out of your cocoon is by doing
something that can place you in the hearts of others. The words "When
you give, you get" are a cliche for a reason. They are so because they
are grounded in truth. Three, you will never get what you want, unless
you ask for it. A recovered heroin addict sat down at his computer and
drafted a message to the chief executive of a billion dollar company. He
signed of by asking the chief for a meeting. A month later the reformed
addict took the stage to talk to the chief executive's employees about
the tactics he used to turn his life around. Today, the man is giving
talks all over his home country, Ireland. He just wrapped up his first
book backed up by a mainstream publisher.
Some people described the actions of the reformed addict, Brian Pennie
as brave, even ballsy. For me it is common sense. We get only one shot
at this life and if you don't pluck up courage and ask for what you
want, one day you will wake up and realize that Tuesday looks a whole
helluva like Monday. Four: if you don't learn how to play ball with
others, you will never accomplish anything. People don't care if you are
smartest person in the community. Nor do they care that you are the
strongest or the fastest. But they absolutely do care whether you are
good to them or not. What this means is that you have to be polite. It
means you have to respect other people by showing up at designated
places and fulfilling your promises by doing what you say you are going
to do.
Learning how to play well with
others means you have to be interested in other people's lives and do
whatever you can to leave your acquaintances better than you found them.
People spend time and do business with people they like and trust. How
many days have you wasted being angry at someone who let you down?
People will always let you down. As long as he is a human being, he is
going to let you down. They're going to annoy you. They are going to lie
to you. You unconsciously do exactly the same thing to others too.
Then, you have either of two choices: you can continue thinking you
don't ever do anything wrong. Or, you can forgive people and get on with
your day. However, the older you get, the more you will realize that
the more hard times you spend with people, the closer your relationships
will become.
Your ideas will never fly
unless you know how to properly communicate them. This is my fifth law
of success. When we speak about successful people, we think about words
like "passion" and "grit." These words are the hallmark of greatness.
But such attributes lose significance if you are not taking the steps to
be an effective communicator. The happiest people are good
communicators. After all, communication leads to connection, and
connection leads to trust while trust leads to everything good. Nobody
wants to hear your excuses so don't mention them. People who make a dent
on the universe don't prevaricate, instead, they discover or invent
something.
Six: you cannot be valuable if
you don't understand what other people value. What you should do to
succeed is to listen to the people around you; taking time to identify
how your strength can help other people overcome their weaknesses.
Meeting the needs of people is the way to add value to them. Finding
that sweet spot where your skills intersect with their needs is proof
you understand what they value. Finally, you are the company you keep is
the seventh law of success. If you spend time with negative people; it
is only a matter of time before you follow suit. On the other hand, if
you spend time with kind and supportive people, it is only a matter of
time before you rise up as well. Who you spend time with is the most
important decision you will ever make. With a collection of right
friendships, everything else in life will take care of itself. The
secret of success is found in good company.
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