By Bayo Ogunmupe
A friend asked me a profound question recently: "Life is so complicated, I tried so hard to make my family happy by giving them my time. But they are not truly satisfied. So, I went to look for jobs. However, I have been unable to achieve the results that I want: a job that pays reasonably well. What can I do differently to achieve the results I want?" We all face such challenges. He is very right how life has become very complicated. Indeed, what really helps me to achieve most things I set my mind upon is my formula: Action; Believe in yourself and Consistency of purpose. Here are what I shared with him.
Action is the most rewarding activity on earth. Life rewards action takers. Many times I have lost, out of being lazy or afraid to take action. Those are the times I have failed to achieve anything. That is how I learned that in order to accomplish a certain goal, you need to do whatever it takes to get the job done. Though not every action taken will equate to success, however, by your not taking action will guarantee that nothing will be achieved. So, I consistently remind myself, there must be no excuses, no procrastination, take baby steps and keep moving forward.
Believing in yourself is the ultimate power. Most people fail because they don't have enough faith in themselves. Such self limiting beliefs are very destructive. While being humble and modest are admirable; it does not mean you must underestimate your capabilities. Be aware and grateful for your talents, but they are not enough to guarantee your success. Being alert, being timely and grasping the issues contribute as ingredients of success. Thus, the only person holding you back from what your heart tells you is yourself.
To succeed in life you have to be persistent. Hear what the 30th President of the United States (1923-1929} Calvin Coolidge said on persistence: "Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not: nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent." Be persistent enough to do whatever it takes to get you from where you are to where you want to be.
Start embracing your humanity and Godlike attributes. You are like the wind, water and sky which change forms many times, while forever remaining beautifully human. Start making your happiness a priority. Your needs matter; if you don't value yourself, look after yourself and stick up for yourself, you are sabotaging yourself. It is possible to take care of your needs while simultaneously caring for those around you. Once your needs are met, you will likely better able to help those who need your help.
Start putting your heart and soul in whatever you are doing. Invest daily in meaningful activities. Remember, no single failure defines us. Always enter new relationships for the right reasons. Enter into relationships with dependable, honest people who reflect the person you are and the person you want to be. Choose friends from people you are proud to know, people you admire, who show you love and respect- people who reciprocate your kindness and commitment to social justice. Pay attention to what people do than what they say for a person's actions are more important than their words or how others represent them.
Start forgiving yourself and others. We've all been hurt by personal decisions and by others. Do not allow these bad experiences linger and litter your memory. Always visualize where you want to be, not where you are coming from. You are only able to do that through self forgiveness and forgiveness of others. You must let go of the resentment and pain of the past, choosing to learn the lessons by moving on with your life. Make today the beginning of your dream life. Let there be no excuses, no regrets come rain come shine. Making adjustments starting now helps you feel better, think more clearly and live a life free of dissension.
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