How to live your dreams (2)

                    By Bayo Ogunmupe

     To realize your destiny is your person's only obligation in life. The book: The Alchemist sets out to teach you to do it. It is written by Paulo Coelho, a Brazilian gentleman. According to Biopsychological theory of personality, every behavior is triggered either by your behavioral activation system BAS or your behavioral inhibition system BIS. Thus your BAS activates and moves you forward despite risks. Or your BIS inhibits your behavior, stopping you from moving forward, because of risks.

     However, according to the Strategic Principle of War, "The best defence is a good offense." In his book, When Violence is the Answer: Learning How to Do What It takes When Your Life is at Stake, Tim Larkin explains that when you are in a hostile situation, if you're hesitant you will lose. If you are retreating backwards, that is what the aggressor wants you to do. If you hold your arms up in fighting position - you are also in a position of weakness; because you don't know what to do. You are acting socially and giving your power of choice to them.

     The only way to successfully win in a hostile situation is to aggressively move forward on the offensive. This is exactly the opposite of what a perpetrator is expecting. And it is the only true defence. And when you are fully committed to living in complete congruence-in spite of the risk, when you have passed the point of no return; for you're required to risk it all. When you go on complete offensive. And you're in alignment with your First Kingdom, you will follow your gut  and by intuition know what to do and you won't let the opinion of others cloud your final decision. Then you have learnt how to live the life of your dreams.

     But you will be misunderstood. The cost will seem too high to most people. But you aren't operating on the same level anymore. They don't realize your security is internal and that you are no longer tied to the outcome. You are now living in congruence with your destiny. Sometimes, you will give lots of money coming your way to what you are trying to accomplish. Consider Elon Musk, who was willing to sink all his money into his companies. Had he not been willing to do that, he wouldn't be as great as he is today.

     To Musk, money is a tool. Not something he is attached to. He doesn't work to make money. He makes money to do more work. He makes money to fuel the mission. He has let go the need for a specific outcome. According to a Harvard psychologist, Robert Kegan, the only way to truly experience the highest levels of transformation and conscious evolution is to detach from the need for specific outcomes. Outcomes can no longer affect your status as one who is poised to living his dreams.
     "The closer one gets to realizing his Personal Legend, the more that Personal Legend becomes his true reason for being."- The Alchemist. Living your dreams is available to everyone whether you choose it or not. Your life will still be a struggle and a challenge. However, you will age faster due to internal conflict, fear, conformity, indecision and selfishness if you chose not to live the life of your dreams. Living the life of your dreams will give you a sense of purpose conjoined with the respect of others. Your life will be fuller, more powerful with deeper and more meaningful relationships. The choice is yours.