By Bayo Ogunmupe When you stop chasing the wrong things, you give the right things access to catch you. Nothing could be closer to the truth. Before you can transform yourself, you have to stop doing things that have been holding you back. One, stop spending time with wrong people. Never flung yourself on someone who overlooks your worth. Your true friends are those standing by you when you are at your worst. Do not run from your problems. Face problems head on; learn, adapt and solve your problems. Problems mold you into the person you become. Beware of lying to yourself. Lives improve only when you take action in spite of all terror. Always be honest with yourself. Two, stop putting your needs as most important. Help others but help yourself too. Always follow your passion. Do not try to be someone you are not. Don"t change so people will like you. Seek not to convince others of your worth; your friends trust you already while your adversaries will never trust you. Moreover, stop holding onto the past. You cannot open the next chapter of your life if you keep reading your last one. Three, never be afraid of making mistakes. Every success has a trail of mistakes behind it. Every failure points towards success. You always regret things you did not do far more than the things you did. Absolve yourself of self recrimination for mistakes help you find the right path in life. Anything that has ever happened to you is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come. Never try to buy happiness, it cannot be done. The components of happiness are free: love, laughter and the enjoyment of your passions. Four, happiness isn't outside of yourself; being happy with who you are is part of being happy. Stop being idle. You cannot change the situation you refuse to confront. Making progress means taking risks.Never prevaricate nobody ever feels perfectly ready when opportunity beckons. Great opportunities force us to grow beyond our comfort zone. Five, you cannot start a new beginning but you can start from today to make a new ending. It is better to be alone than to be in bad company. Fall in love when you are ready, not when you are lonely. Do not reject new friends because old relations didn't work There is purpose for everyone you meet. Some will test or use you, while others will teach you lessons. Most importantly, some will bring out the best in you. To thy own self be true. Never compete with anyone. Concentrate on beating your own records. Success is a battle for self mastery. Six, eschew jealousy, it is the art of counting another person's blessings instead of your own. Stop complaining; stop holding grudges, forgiveness alone can give you peace and liberty. As you forgive others, forgive yourself too. Seven, do not allow others to bring you down. Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs. Do not waste time explaining yourself to others, your friends don't ned it; your enemies wont believe you. Stop doing the same thing over and over, without a break; often you need to distance yourself to see things in new perspectives. Eight, never overlook the beauty in small moments. The best of lives are the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with loved ones. Stop being a perfectionist; the world does not reward perfectionists the world rewards only those who get things done. And never take the path of least resistance. Nine, aim at doing something extraordinary. Never act as if every thing is fine. It is okay for things to fall apart once in a while. It is healthy to shed tears. The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile again. Besides, abhor scapegoatism,you cannot blame others for your errors. Always take responsibility for every action you take. Achieving your dreams depends on the extent to which you can take responsibility for your actions. Cease being everything to everyone. Making one person smile can change their world. Narrow your focus. Finally, stop worrying about the future. Worry will not strip tomorrow of its burdens. It will only strip today of its joy. Nothing is worth worrying about, particularly things you cannot change. Never focus on things you don't want. Always focus on what you want to happen. Positive thinking is the hallmark of every great success. And indeed, stop being ungrateful. No matter how bad things are , wake up each day thankful for your life. Someone somewhere is fighting for his dear life. So be grateful for having yours.